So as you know, I’m all about being kind to my RP partners. I think communication and being understanding are very important factors in starting a relationship whether it’s platonic or otherwise but I feel like there are people who need some encouragement. More recently, I’ve been seeing a lot of mental abuse both IC and OOC. I’m talking about real and raw emotional abuse that a person tries to inflict through manipulation and bully. Since I talk to a lot of people, I’m no stranger to this but I’m confident and I have the strength to just walk away from a bad situation. We should encourage each other to get through difficult times in a positive way. For those of you don’t have the confidence yet I want to remind you of the things you DON’T and shouldn’t tolerate.
1. Do not allow someone to bully you into Roleplay. You RP on your time, you pay for your own subscription. Don’t let anyone force you into something you don’t want to do. You don’t want to write a love story, don’t write a love story. If you want to be polygamous, monogamous, the city drunk, the shy wallflower, or the snarky jerk that everyone loves to hate… then do it. This is your time!
2.) You don’t have to feel bad if someone unfollows you (or removes you from discord) because they’re mad about what you’re doing. This is just forms of trying to control you. If they leave, let them go. Maybe somewhere down the line they will figure out that the reason they can’t keep friends is because they need to change their heart. Equally so, maybe the two of you just don’t mesh well and if that’s the case, you shouldn’t be trying to shove a square peg in a very small round hole to begin with. It will only frustrate the both of you.
3.) You don’t owe anyone notes on their Tumblr or even a platform on yours. If you don’t like what’s on their Tumblr, unfollow it. If they don’t like what’s on yours let them unfollow you. If they get upset about it, sure you can talk it out but if they start intentionally making things uncomfortable LET THEM GO. You do not have to sacrifice your mental health for anyone.
4.) If a person is threatening to kill their character or themselves, please give them the number to the suicide hotline and let them talk to someone who can help them. Its difficult to say but sacrificing yourself to save someone  is not your responsibility.
There are more things you don’t have to tolerate that are personal but I always say to myself that if it doesn’t feel good, stop doing it.
Please please please do not change yourself or your beautiful character just to be with someone. You’ll regret it in the end. Let go of toxic people, they will only drag you down. You deserve more. There are people out there waiting to love you the way you should be loved.
People will treat you in the manner you allow them to treat you. Make sure by your own standards and hopefully by morally good standards, you are treated well. And just as well, treat everyone with kindness.
Thank you for all the years we’ve known each other. As much as I believe all things end, you always stand to remind me that doesn’t mean it can’t last a really really long time. Like, I can’t even remember what role play was like before I met you, we’ve been mutuals for so long, and I wouldn’t change it for the world! Thank you for being in my life and I love you, boo!
“Of course. You’re my heart. You’re the only person I want to last forever with.”
Thank you for all the years we’ve known each other. As much as I believe all things end, you always stand to remind me that doesn’t mean it can’t last a really really long time. Like, I can’t even remember what role play was like before I met you, we’ve been mutuals for so long, and I wouldn’t change it for the world! Thank you for being in my life and I love you, boo!
Kikyo Mihata 